Valentine’s Day? Never meant much to me.
Maybe it’s because, over the last few years, I’ve been too busy either preparing for an exam, taking an exam, or stressing over one. The beauty of being in engineering school? No time for romance—only suffering. Everyone is too buried in their textbooks to care.
But outside of my little academic bubble, I recognize that Valentine’s Day does matter to a lot of people. And for some, it can be a tough time—especially with the internet constantly reminding them of what they “don’t have”. Whether it’s TikTok couples doing the absolute most or Instagram feeds filled with rose petals and candlelit dinners, social media can make being single feel ten times worse.
So, if you’re single this Valentine’s, here’s what not to do—trust me on this one.
The first thing you need to understand is that being single is not a bad thing. Seriously, who started this nonsense? If you genuinely believe being single is some kind of failure, you might need to pause this post and pick up a self-love book—The Mountain Is You is a great place to start. Trust me, that mindset needs a reset.
Now that we’ve got that out of the way, let’s get into what not to do this Valentine’s—and, more importantly, what you should be doing instead.
1. Reach Out to an EX
Girl, this is not the time—please.
Just the thought of anyone doing this is mortifying. Don’t get me wrong, I know loneliness hits hard sometimes. We all crave love—it’s human nature. Missing intimacy? Totally normal. But your self-respect should be stronger than any fleeting emotion.
Instead of spiraling, why not make the most of the day? Call up one of your single friends—chances are, they don’t have Valentine’s plans either. Go out, hit a bar, have a nice dinner, rant about your exes over cocktails, and let loose. Or better yet—host a Galentine’s Day! Turn the night into a celebration of friendships, fun, and zero emotional regrets.
2. Depress and Cry Yourself To Sleep
How boring is that? Seriously. I feel so detached from this topic because, honestly, I cannot relate. But fine—I’ll try to empathize and take this seriously.
But like… seriously?? Cry yourself to sleep while watching couples do the absolute most on social media? First of all—eres masoquista? (I said that in Spanish because, honestly, I don’t even know how to say it in English.) The real question is: why on earth would you do that to yourself?
Instead of drowning in self-pity, keep yourself busy and make some money babe! Don’t you have goals? Things you’re working on this year? Do you have a job? No? Then why aren’t you applying? There are a million things you could be doing instead of crying over someone who probably doesn’t even give a shit about you. Let’s be real—he’s probably out having fun while you’re over here doing the most. And, to top it off, he’s probably an absolute loser.
Make some money, babe—money will never make you cry. (Love you!)
3. Get Desperate
Before we even get into this, let me tell you something I’ve learned in life—mindset is everything. If you’re stuck in self-pity, constantly playing the victim, then guess what? Everything in your life will follow that logic. You’ll keep finding yourself in situations you could have avoided, and that energy will radiate into every aspect of your life. Don’t do this to yourself. Shift your mindset to boss energy, and trust me—everything else will ALIGN.
Now, let’s get into it.
Every year, men assume women get desperate during this season. This is the one time of the year when they suddenly have the audacity to tweet things like:
“Oh, you’re an independent woman, but now you’re single on Valentine’s Day?”
“If you had answered that text, you’d be celebrating too.”
Insert any other nonsense they come up with.
Ignore. Block. Delete. Move on.
I know there’s a guy who has been in your DMs for months— don’t answer, babe.
What about that guy who’s been begging you to go on a date? DON’T DO ITTTT.
And the one you stopped talking to because you’re totally not into him? STILL DON’T DO IT.
Instead, go on a solo date.
I personally love going to the spa, which is actually tragic for me because there aren’t any where I live (anywayyyy, that’s besides the point). Treat yourself—go to the spa, have a self-care day, make your favorite meal, get some wine, watch a good show.
(Side note: I’m into Turkish dramas, and I have so many to catch up on, lol—but you get the vibe.)
Bottom line? Do something that makes YOU happy.
That’s all I’ve got for you. If there’s one thing you should take from this post? Make some money and forget about that loserrr. (LMAOOOO, love you, babe! 💕)
I have been loving this valentine series. A quote for a lifetime “money will never make you cry” I cackled so much reading this piece !!😂
I absolutely agree with what you said. Shower yourself with love don’t wait for anyone to do it for you..