Hello Divas!!! Welcome back and happy new year to everyone!
For this new year I hope everyone is making better decisions, looking to make stronger connections and maintaining the current relationships they have.
Building stronger connections is something we all crave, yet it can feel like an elusive goal. This New Year, let’s commit to nurturing our relationships with intention and care I’m going to be giving five important tips that in my opinion are foundations for maintaining a good and healthy relationship
Communication
It’s no secret that communication is the foundation in a good and healthy relationship. That seems quiet hypocritical coming from someone who does not know how to do that . I find it so difficult to express my feelings and I’ve mostly confused communication and confrontation. My best friend recently explained to me that you can always say what bothers you and why you’re upset without drama.
Whenever I’m in a difficult situation and please tell me I’m not alone, I freeze. If I’m talking or arguing with someone and they say something hurtful to me, I simply go mute.
At this point I don’t necessarily want to change that because it is a reflex reaction. Now I’m working on being able to tell the other person after some time, what hurt me, why it hurt me and explain to them how I feel I was wronged.
Compatibility
In my opinion, compatibility is a very important aspect of any relationship. It is important to be with someone who shares the same values as you. Many couples and friendships experience a lot of friction because of this, and you may often find yourself explaining your reasons and feelings to your partner because you don’t “speak the same language”
I have a friend with whom I experience a lot of friction because we don’t share the same values. I actually find it hard to tell her, “Oh, I don’t like this,” or to simply point out when she’s wrong or that what she’s doing, in my opinion, isn’t decent.
Connection and Empathy
This is a reminder to myself and to others: when you have an argument or feel upset with someone—a friend, partner, sibling, parent, or anyone close to you—take a moment to remember who is in front of you. Of all the things I’ve mentioned, this is the most important and also the one I struggle with the most.
I consider myself a peaceful person. I don’t go out of my way to bother anyone; I mind my business and focus on myself. However, when I feel like someone crosses me, my instinct is to cut them off immediately. I tend to stand firm, but often with the wrong people.
For example, I recently got upset with my sister over something and decided to handle it in my own way. I wasn’t planning to communicate with her or give her any explanation. As usual, my best friend stepped in and stopped me. Whenever I’m in a conflict, I often react as if the other person is a stranger—someone with whom I share no memories or love.
But I’m learning that there should be boundaries to what you’re willing to do or say when you’re angry with a loved one. Some actions and words can’t be taken back, and they can leave lasting damage. It’s important to pause, reflect, and handle disagreements with care, especially when it comes to the people you love.
Boundaries
Boundaries are essential in every relationship and friendship. Without them, it’s likely that you don’t fully understand yourself yet, which makes it hard to pinpoint what you don’t like and how you want to be treated. Once you establish your boundaries, it’s crucial to consistently enforce them and avoid compromising on them.
I’ll dive deeper into this topic in an upcoming post, where I’ll share how and why my last relationship ended. Stay tuned!
Honesty
Honesty is a cornerstone of every healthy relationship. It’s essential to communicate your truth to your partner, giving them the opportunity to decide whether it aligns with their values.
Additionally, trust—an integral part of any strong and thriving relationship—is built on a foundation of honesty.
My last partner taught me the importance of always being truthful and how it fosters trust. It’s far better to share a bitter truth than to offer a sweet lie.
Remember, building stronger connections takes time, effort, and self-awareness. Here’s to a year filled with meaningful relationships and personal growth!”
And you, what are some tips that are important in building stronger connections? Comment below!
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