Hello, divas! Today, we’re diving into a topic that is truly universal: confidence—how to stop doubting yourself, embrace who you are, and not just know but believe that you deserve the world. Because you do.
For a long time—honestly, a good part of my adulthood—I struggled with self-doubt. And if I’m being real, I still have moments where I have to check myself and remind myself who I am and what I deserve. It’s human to have those moments, but what truly matters is how you handle them. Do you let them define you, or do you rise above them? That’s what we’re here to talk about
- Own your uniqueness
The most important step in becoming confident is understanding that there is no one like you. Seriously, think about it. We live in a world filled with incredible talents—singers, writers, engineers, doctors, artists. There’s not just one pop star, one actor, or one author. Each one brings something different, and that’s exactly how you should see yourself.
Your individuality is your superpower. Walk into every room knowing that no one else can be you—and that alone makes you extraordinary.
2. Stay True to Yourself
One of the biggest confidence killers? Breaking the promises you make to yourself.
Think about it: if you had a friend who constantly flaked on plans or lied to you, would you trust them? Probably not. The same applies to how you treat yourself. If you say you’ll wake up early to work out, follow through. If you tell yourself you’re done with an unhealthy relationship, stick to it.
Confidence isn’t just about appearances—it’s about trusting yourself. Start with small, daily promises. Whether it’s doing laundry, journaling for five minutes, or finishing a task you’ve been avoiding, follow through. Over time, you’ll start believing in yourself more than ever.
3. Protect your Energy
Your environment plays a huge role in how you see yourself. If you surround yourself with people who make you feel small, your confidence will shrink too.
A few years ago, I had a conversation with one of my closest friends about a guy I was dating. I can’t remember all the details, but one thing she said stuck with me:
“You don’t believe you deserve better because you’ve never been with someone who treats you the way you deserve.”
That hit me like a ton of bricks. Sometimes, we accept less than we deserve because it’s all we’ve known. But confidence means recognizing your worth and refusing to settle—whether it’s in friendships, relationships, or work environments. Pay attention to how you feel after being around certain people. If they drain you or make you doubt yourself, it’s time to set boundaries.
4. Be Ambitious
Confidence isn’t just about how you look or how others see you—it’s about what drives you. What excites you? What makes you jump out of bed in the morning? If you don’t know, start exploring. Try new things, set goals, and challenge yourself.
You don’t have to be perfect—just improving. Every single day, aim to be 1% better than you were yesterday. That’s the real secret to growth.
Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build. It comes from owning who you are, keeping your word to yourself, surrounding yourself with people who uplift you, and chasing your goals with everything you’ve got.
So, divas, I want to hear from you! What are some things that have helped you build confidence? Drop your thoughts in the comments!
And remember: you deserve the world—so act like it
Thanks for this priceless educative write up.